A Conversation with Susannah Conway

For over 12 years now, I have been running a heart-centered business. I have been working closely with memoir writers for nearly two decades, but the first Unlocking Your Story workshop took place in 2009, which has now become my signature offering along with one-on-one mentoring.

For much of that time, I have been following Susannah Conway, an author, photographer and teacher who is based in the United Kingdom. Susannah offers a variety of e-courses devoted to personal development—everything from journaling to tarot to how to blog from the heart. Her name may sound familiar as I’ve often passed along the link to her ever popular “Unravel Your Year” workbook at the end of each year.

Six years ago, Susannah created The Inside Story, which offers a behind the scenes look at how she runs her very successful, heart-centered online business. Not only does Susannah share her knowledge openly and generously, but she also draws together an incredible community from around the world. In many ways, they have been my guiding light as I navigate my own organic path doing work that I love.

This Monday, October 4th, Susannah is opening a new iteration of The Inside Story—a 7-week online course ideal for those who want to put more of yourself into what you do!

Scroll down to read my interview with Susannah, where she shares more about The Inside Story as well as a few golden tips on how to think about cultivating your personal brand, which to my mind, is really about sharing your genuine Self as a way of cultivating community.

If you are curious about The Inside Story or have any questions, I'm happy to share my experience!


SUSANNAH CONWAY is an author, photographer and teacher who’s been sharing her heart online for over a decade. She guides people in knowing, trusting and expressing themselves better by teaching the tools that helped her heal her own heart and live a self-directed life.

Based in the United Kingdom, Susannah now has a range of creative e-courses running throughout the year sharing the tools and techniques that brought such profound change into her life. Thousands of people from over 50 countries have joined together to explore their creativity.

Her upcoming e-course, The Inside Story, takes you behind the scenes, as she reveals how her online, heart-centered business is run, so that you can find the shape of your own!

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KARIN GUTMAN: For those who don’t know you, can you share a bit about what you do in the world?

SUSANNAH CONWAY: Yeah, well, the people who I normally have to explain that to are taxi drivers. You know, when you're in the back of a cab. “What do you do, love?” And so, I always say, “I'm a writer,” because that's easy to understand. And then they say, “What do you write about?” And I say, “Well, I write about personal development.” But then I say, “I also run creative courses online. And I teach about journaling, and Tarot, and photography, and meditation and stuff like that as a way to get to know yourself better, and feel more in alignment with what's important to you.” So yeah, that's kind of how I put it.

That always sounds a bit wishy washy. So then I say, “Well, I've been doing it for 12 years. And so far, so good. So, it does work.” People often find the concept of teaching online a new thing. But this has been going for a while now. It is a billion-dollar industry with lots of different layers. I'm definitely a smaller player, but in some ways that feels better, because I'm a bit more nimble. I can change and course correct and make it the shape I want it to be.

I’ve been doing stuff online since 2006. So, I've had time to build community and get to know people online and know how to be online. It feels quite natural now.

KARIN: Let’s talk about The Inside Story! You and The Inside Story community have been my guiding light in running a heart-centered business for many years.

So much of it is about developing a personal brand or platform, which applies to authors, as well. Where do you suggest people start?

SUSANNAH: You've got to get to know yourself really well. That's part of why it's called The Inside Story. In the first module, I talk about doing the strengths finder test. Knowing if you are an introvert or an extrovert. Having self-awareness first, to understand how you want to create your business and how you want it to feel and what you need from it, rather than doing what you think you should do, or what everyone else tells you. So, we start with that piece of self-awareness.

And then we're moving into building a following, building your tribe of people. Because without community, you don't have a business. If you don't have someone to sell to or for someone to buy your book, or come and see your play, or whatever it is… it's not going to happen. The community piece is the biggest piece. And so, I'm going to talk about how to call those people in.

How do you want to show up online? People use the word ‘authentic’ all the time. I’ve kind of gone off that word now because I hear it so often, it doesn't mean anything. But how to get comfortable—I feel like I'm speaking clichés—being yourself online? How do you get to know yourself well enough to feel confident to show up on Twitter or Instagram, whatever it is, just as you are. Not trying to be like that person and not comparing yourself to that person. We're going to do a bit on comparison as well. But just celebrating who you are, and how you are, and what you look like, and figuring out how much do I want to share? What do you not want to do—get really clear on that. That will help you get clear on what you do want to do.

KARIN: You originally created the course six years ago. What’s new in this latest iteration?

SUSANNAH: The new spin is going to be a whole thing on Instagram, because that's my favorite way to share. I'm not on Twitter anymore. I don't like Facebook. I will talk about picking one and doing it well. And do it consistently. Consistency is the most important thing in all of this. Do something consistently. Sharing snippets of your world, I think, is the most seductive thing. You're creating this little legion of fans who want to know your story, they want to know what comes next. You find things that you want to share.

KARIN: Like how you’ve been photographing and sharing about the foxes who took up residence in your backyard?

SUSANNAH: The foxes are going to be an example. The foxes haven’t anything to do with what I teach, although we could argue photography. But what I did is I created a stopwatch. I documented something that was happening in my immediate world, something that I felt quite emotional about. And I shared it with my Instagram family. There were no hashtags, nothing like that. And I got bajillions of comments on there, because everyone got really invested in the foxes just like I was.

Photo courtesy of Susannah Conway.

Photo courtesy of Susannah Conway.

I was just being in the community, and I wasn't there to sell them anything. I wasn't trying to do anything actually. I was just like, “Oh my God, look at this!” It's almost like social media becomes a show and tell. “Look at this...” and they get invested in your story. And they want to follow because they wonder what happens next. That's what my blog always was—it was telling the story of me and saying, you know, this happened. And then, well, I figured that bit out now and I figured that bit out, and people come along for the ride. Maybe it's just about being a decent storyteller and sharing your story in a way that's moderately interesting. We're not talking Neil Gaiman. Just share. Honestly, truthfully. Decide what you don't want to share. Don't want to talk about your marriage. Great. No one cares. But just sharing enough.

Maybe sometimes you will feel a tiny bit uncomfortable. But that's always when you're going to get the most comments. Anytime I've shared something that was like, “Oh shit, I shouldn't have said that.” Avalanche of comments. It was like, “Me too! Me too! Me too!” I think it's knowing who you are, and then getting comfortable sharing yourself. You get comfortable by practicing it. The more you do it, the easier it gets. But you have to do it consistently. And then do it in such a way that people get a little bit invested. And then obviously, if you're creating something, share your process, share your inspirations.

Social media is like this big storytelling platform, if you think about it, and we're all these unpaid entertainers that are dancing at the front of the room, and everyone's like, “Oh, she's so great. I want to be like her.” Ultimately, that's what it is… you do things and people are like, “I just wanna be like you.”

KARIN: It’s sharing about the things that matter to us, like the foxes were for you.

SUSANNAH: The enthusiasm is infectious. You want people to fall in love with you. It sounds a bit ‘ick’ but actually I mean in the purest way. If you're going to build a following it’s because people like what you're saying or they like what you're sharing or they really relate to your story, you know, it's all of that. I don't know how to teach people how to be charming, but that's what it is. It's you charming people, and you do that by sharing enough that they are interested and a little bit intrigued and they want to know what happens next. I am a constantly unfolding story for people to read and I think that's always what blogging felt like—a blog post literally felt like the next chapter in the book. It was this never-ending book. Now we have much shorter chapters on social media.

The way they've designed the technology with the whole slot machine aspect of Instagram—the addictive quality of it—is quite annoying and I don't like that because I'm on there scrolling. We're all doing that. That whole idea that you never know what you're going to find, you can't predict what it's going to be. And so, every time I shared a fox picture people went bananas. I made a reel of the foxes on Instagram and it got viewed like 190,000 times. The algorithm got it because it was popular. I love that the thing that got viewed the most was just about the foxes. There was no “link in bio,” there was none of that. It was just sharing joy. That's awesome. I can't monetize that, surely, but sometimes you can catch something that feels magical and it's not about money but it brings people to you because they feel your energy. I'm sure I got quite a few followers from it.

So, we have to learn how to be partly entertainers but also partly storytellers. How can you tell your story, whatever it is, in such a way that someone you know wants to give you a few minutes of their time and attention? And then maybe, when they get a bit invested and fall in love with you, they'll give you some money. That's been my experience.

KARIN: What do you say to people who feel anxious about exposing themselves?

SUSANNAH: I would say you’ve got to find your way of doing it that feels comfortable. If it's that bad, do something different. Re-think your job. Because the thing is, if you're doing anything creative, there needs to be an aspect of you finding your fans. Fact. We can't get away from that. I still share the occasional picture of me because I know that if I've ever shared a selfie on Instagram, it gets the most comments because people want to connect with other people. You want to know who you're buying from. Like the old days of Etsy, you're always going to be clicking on the “About” page because you want to know, Who is the person creating this magical shawl? We want that connection. It feels much more authentic and real.

KARIN: For those who are looking to cultivate a personal brand, what are the three most important things to think about?

SUSANNAH: Consistency, honesty… you know, I want to say, humor.

KARIN: That’s awesome.

SUSANNAH: Don't take it all so seriously. It's fun. I hope that comes through. I'm a very serious person, but I'm a sweary. That's just who I am. So, I hope that comes across. I think in my writing online, I probably seem a little bit more serious than I actually am. That is also part of me, but when you meet me in person, I'm just like my mom and my sister. We're the jesters of the family. Whenever we're around people, we're the ones cracking jokes and putting everyone at ease through humor. I think humor is such a lovely way to bring people together. Just to take that edge off. Yeah, bring that in—obviously if that comes naturally. Just a lightness of touch.



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THE INSIDE STORY

A seven-week online course

Beginning Monday, October 4th!


If you’re a year or two into your business, looking to build your personal brand, or ready to take your side-hustle full time, this course is for you.

In this seven-week online course, Susannah shares how she got started and (un)structures her day to the tools she uses, how she creates and runs her e-courses, builds community and navigates social media as an introvert. She reveals everything she has learned in 12 years of running a successful, heart-centered online business. She'll also help you figure out the shape of YOUR business.

The Inside Story isn’t a blueprint, it’s a permission slip to create the business that fits YOU.

Susannah not only offers outstanding guidance and a wealth of information and tools in her class, she has also built an exceptional community of nurturing and supportive business owners around her. We are proud to be Insiders!
— Kerstin Martin
 
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A Conversation with Miriam Jacobson

Tomorrow marks the 20th anniversary of the attacks that took place on September 11, 2001. I had the privilege of working closely with writer Miriam Jacobson on a personal essay in which she shares her experience of that fateful day and its aftermath. Miriam's father worked on the 110th floor of the World Trade Center and was killed in the attack. You can read the piece here, published by the Huffington Post.

I asked Miriam about her experience writing the essay, something she says has been percolating for a long time, and what it means to see her words finally in print. Scroll down to read our interview.

It's rewarding for me, too! I become deeply invested in the stories shared in the intimate spaces of the workshops and private sessions, and to witness them fly into the world and into the hearts and minds of those who read them, is thrilling. I feel so grateful to be a part of this process!


Miriam Jacobson is a holistic dietitian and the founder of Every Body Bliss, a functional nutrition practice located in Los Angeles. She supports individuals on their healing journey using a combination of nutritional therapy, mindset coaching, and breathwork. It is her mission to create a supportive environment for healing while helping individuals feel empowered, engaged, and joyful about their health. You can follow Miriam on instagram @everybodybliss.

Her personal essay commemorating the 20th anniversary of 9/11 is featured in the Huffington Post.

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KARIN GUTMAN: The anniversary of 9/11 must be an emotional time for you each year. How is this year, the 20th anniversary, special or different?

MIRIAM JACOBSON: The anniversary is always so loaded, but I think this year it’s even more complex. I think about 9/11 on most days—my family and I still face its devastating impact on a daily basis. But writing this essay feels like it helped me reclaim some of my power. While some of my worst nightmares came true, I have also been able to help others along my journey and that feels really good. So, it’s complicated. But I’m also just really excited and proud (and honestly a little nervous!) to see my writing out in the world!

KARIN: What inspired you to write a personal essay to commemorate this event?

MIRIAM: For the past few years I wanted to write a personal essay like this, but I didn’t know what to share. I have spent so much time hiding my connection to 9/11 and I was scared of the visibility—was this something I really wanted to call attention to? But I couldn’t escape my nagging thoughts telling me to write my story. While setting goals for the writing workshop this past winter, I thought it could be interesting to write a personal essay for the 20th anniversary. I thought it would be a meaningful way to reflect on my growth over the last 20 years. The other students in the workshop were so supportive and encouraging, which boosted my confidence in later submitting it for publication.

KARIN: Can you share about your writing process? What did you learn from it, personally or as a writer?

I learned how much time and effort goes into writing a cohesive piece. I knew the essence of what I wanted to convey, but had no idea what to say or how to say it. I just started putting words down on paper and presented the essay several times to the writing group, changing the structure as I received feedback from them. Twelve drafts later (with your help) I finally had a final essay to submit. I also didn’t fully realize how challenging it is to write a short piece, because I needed to be picky with every single sentence.

Personally, I’ve been learning to be easier on myself. In the past I have been a perfectionist, pushing down my feelings and grinding through my discomfort to get stuff done. But I know this is counterproductive, and I am trying to rewrite old patterns and be kinder with myself. I took a lot of time writing the piece because it was an emotional process. I gave myself a lot of space and grace when I wasn’t up for it, or knew when I needed to lie down to do breathwork, or talk to a friend to integrate what was surfacing.

KARIN: What do you hope that people remember on this day, the 20th anniversary of September 11th?

There is so much hate and division in today’s world. I want to remind people how much more we can accomplish when we are able to come together and channel more love for one another. After the attacks in 2001, strangers in the NYC community were so kind and supportive, which brought me a tremendous amount of comfort back then. Although we all come from different backgrounds, I hope we can remember how much more powerful we are when we can embrace each other’s differences and act through love rather than xenophobia and hate.

KARIN: For you, who have experienced so much loss, can you share how writing might be helping you to heal or transform that loss?

I wasn’t ready to write about any of this for a long time. Now that I’m finally ready, I find writing helps me process my experiences. Living through these traumas and losses felt like an out-of-body experience. Writing is the opposite—an in-body experience that helps me process the events almost like they’re happening in real-time. Sometimes I find myself in front of my laptop with tears streaming down my face as I write. This feedback points to what parts of my story still need love, attention and healing. I also think it’s incredible that I get to assign meaning to what I lived through, which has helped me reclaim parts of my past when I felt like I was out of control or victimized. I think that’s so powerful!

The most surprising thing about writing and healing has been reconnecting with my family. Writing about my parents feels like I’m bringing them back to life, which is a strange and also sweet experience.



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Miriam and her father, Steven Jacobson.

Miriam and her father, Steven Jacobson.

Steven Jacobson, chief broadcast engineer for WPIX, perched on the transmitter's 360-foot antenna at the top of the World Trade Center, circa 1981.

Steven Jacobson, chief broadcast engineer for WPIX, perched on the transmitter's 360-foot antenna at the top of the World Trade Center, circa 1981.

Steven Jacobson, on the roof of One World Trade Center.

Steven Jacobson, on the roof of One World Trade Center.

Photos courtesy of Miriam Jacobson.

A Conversation with Wendy Adamson

Over the years, I've noticed that writers who are writing their personal stories often have one primary fear.

Exposure.

The fear of exposing themselves and other people—and not knowing how it will be received.

In the feature author interview this month, Wendy Adamson speaks about facing these fears and how she moved through them. Now with her second memoir out, she is blazing trails for anyone who might take that bold step.

A prequel to her first book, Incorrigible is a coming-of-age memoir about a teenager who is reeling from the devastation of her mother's suicide, landing her in the arms of addiction and the criminal justice system.

Wendy says she knew deep down that she is here on earth to tell her story, and that it has the potential to help others and change lives.

Scroll down to read the full interview.


With over two decades of experience in the field of mental health and substance abuse treatment, Wendy Adamson possesses a deep understanding of the recovery process. She has held many positions throughout her career, but currently she works in Business Development at Polaris Teen Center, an inpatient facility that helps adolescents who are suffering with mental health issues while providing them a safe place to heal.

For the past seven years, Wendy has also headed up Business Development for her son’s nonprofit, Hav A Sole, an organization that has partnered with major NBA teams, and corporations like Nike to deliver over 30,000 high quality sneakers to at-risk youth, and more recently started a mentorship program for marginalized youth. In 2020 Rikki and Wendy’s inspiring story was featured on The Ellen DeGeneres Show.

Wendy is a published author of two memoirs, Mother Load and Incorrigible, where she documents her own struggles with addiction and mental health issues and the long arduous journey of healing and repair that came as a result of getting sober.

 

KARIN GUTMAN: Tell us about this new book of yours!

WENDY ADAMSON: My new book is called Incorrigible, which is actually a prequel to Mother Load, my first book. This one starts with me visiting my mother in a mental hospital as a small child, and recounts her suicide at seven years old and shows how unexpressed grief and loss unconsciously directs my life.

As a typical California kid of the 70s I take the reader through my teenage angst and self-destruction until I end up in the same hospital that my mother was in. Using alcohol and drugs to self-medicate I am eventually labeled INCORRIGIBLE by the courts and plucked from a lifestyle of privilege and introduced to the criminal justice system.

KARIN: I notice that your first book follows your journey as an adult, and then you follow it in the second book with the story of your childhood.

WENDY: I had to write my adult story first. I would attribute that to a health scare I had some years ago which made me feel an urgency to finish that book. So, after more than ten years I was finally able to get Mother Load published. It was only later, that I realized that I had glossed over much of my teenage years. And since I work in an adolescent mental health treatment center, I knew first hand that many teenagers were struggling, especially during Covid19 and they would be able to relate to a book like mine.

KARIN: What was the writing process like for this book? In what way was it similar or different from the first book?

WENDY: The writing process has become somewhat easier for me as I have developed a discipline. I go to bed early and wake up early so I can write. The structure developed as a result of having a day job. Over time, I learned that once I start working at the job, it can be hard getting back into the writing flow.

This book was also different because the Covid19 lockdown gave me more time. Like many people during 2020 I was anxious when Covid19 hit, not to mention everything else that was happening in our country. The chaos and uncertainty in some ways felt like my childhood, and I felt like I was on high alert. I don’t know if this makes any sense, but writing became a place to channel my energy in order to get the angst outside of me and onto paper. I strongly believe that writing is a therapeutic tool, but during the isolation of 2020, I found it to be absolutely necessary in getting through my day.

I also have more experience now and know that in order to keep developing the manuscript it helps to have a trusted editor giving you feedback along the way.

KARIN: What are you learning about your creative process?

WENDY: This may sound strange, but I’ve learned that writing about early life experience can be a portal to my ancestors. In writing Incorrigible, I was able to explore the relationship I had with my father. In some ways he always loomed in my consciousness as a monster, but the more I wrote, the more I began to see my own behavior as an unruly teenager. I was not an easy to kid to raise. Since I grew up in a family with a lot of secrets, I felt betrayed and wanted to make my father pay for his mistakes. In writing, as I dove deep into my childhood, I invoked unpleasant memories of how I treated my father. As a result of dissecting many of my actions, unsuspected empathy welled up in my heart for my father. And that was a gift I did not expect.

KARIN: That's incredible.

How easily do your memories come back to you as you write? Are you having to use your imagination a lot to fill in the details of the childhood scenes?


WENDY: Often I get flooded by memories when I write the scenes, but yes, I also use my imagination as well. In writing scenes of Camarillo State Mental Hospital or Sylmar Juvenile Hall I researched online and found articles and pictures of the institutions. This helped me immensely with the details of the environment I was in at the time. With dialogue, I don't remember every word that was said, but I try to capture the essence of the conversation as well as the dynamic between the two people who are talking. I also had the benefit of talking to my sister and brother to see what they remembered as I pieced the chapters together. Sometimes my timeline was off as I am going through dramatic events, and there were a lot of them in my childhood. But I think most writers of memoir use their imagination when it comes to early memories.

If only I knew I was going to be writing about all this one day, I would have taken better notes.

KARIN: Tell us about what you do to market your book, which is such a different mindset than writing.

WENDY: A marketing mindset feels like the other end of the spectrum from creative writing. It feels endless, and since I don’t have a publicist, I’m always questioning if I’m doing enough to get my book out there. There’s just so much to do. Come up with content for social media posts, composing a press release, trying to get on a podcast, a blog or organizing a virtual book launch. All of the details in marketing take me far away from my writing process, and if I’m not careful, I can go down the rabbit hole. Right now, I am considering hiring an intern to help me with details of social media, reaching out to podcasts and such. I just don’t have the time to do it all.

KARIN: Do you have a sense of how the first book is doing? I’m curious about what it's like to publish with a small press.

WENDY: Mother Load is selling slowly but mostly by word of mouth. I have a five-year contract with my publisher and at the end of that we can discuss renewing the contract or I can take it somewhere else.

I have a friend who published a book six years ago. She wasn’t happy with her first publisher, so after the contract was over she brought it to my publisher and was able to create a new book cover and add two chapters. It's going to be re-released again in the fall.

KARIN: Are you working on anything new? Do you have a sense of where your writing will go from here?

WENDY: Yes, I am deep into book three which is about my insane twenties. Seriously, if you’ve lived a life like mine, all that ‘drama’ makes for good content. Besides, it’s very satisfying to take the pain and struggle and turn it into something that might be able to help someone going through the same thing.

KARIN: How does it feel to have your life exposed so completely? I know this was a source of great fear in the early stages of your writing.

WENDY: The fear of being judged kept me small and not taking risks most of my life. I’m at a point now where I still get scared of exposing myself, but I do it anyway. Again, this kind of drive comes from a deep desire to use my story to inspire others to change the trajectory of their lives. After all, if I can do it, so can you.

I often wonder if I had read an author I could have related to when I was a kid, would it have made a difference? I know people that say that a certain book changed their lives, so why not?

KARIN: What would you say to someone who has a story to tell but is afraid of the exposure?

WENDY: I would tell the person I was afraid of the exposure as well because of a deep-seated shame that I carried into all aspects of my life. It was that shame that kept me from telling my story, the same shame that wanted me to stay small. It blocked my creativity, sabotaged my goals, and kept me from pursuing my dreams.

When you speak your truth and expose yourself you’re becoming the alchemist of your own life. It's challenging old thought patterns and constructs that have boxed you in. For me, the biggest payoff of all was that the shame didn’t own me anymore and I was finally free to pursue my dreams.

KARIN: What would you say to someone who has a story to tell but thinks they “aren’t a writer”?

WENDY: I would say I understand, and tell them I was a high-school drop-out with a rap-sheet and didn’t think I could get anything published. I told myself that no one would ever care about what I have to say. I had to challenge all of my old beliefs and take contrary action by doing multiple writing workshops with you, Karin. I had to have a safe place to write, because in the deepest part of me I knew I am here to tell my story. And in spite of the critic that tries to convince me with great authority that I am not a writer, I have been able to publish two books. That would have never happened if I would have listened to my head.



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