A Conversation with Chanel Brenner

It's no surprise that the topic of grief is being written about a lot these days, even as we start to emerge from our year of hibernation. I feel fortunate to have so many seasoned writers around me, with varied perspectives and experience, who are tackling this subject and helping me (us) to make sense of it, to understand this terrain more fully and deeply.

One of these voices is a long-time, treasured member of the Unlocking Your Story workshops. In fact, Chanel Brenner used to host the Santa Monica group at her home before we went online. Her new collection of poetry, Smile, Or Else, is the winner of the 2021 Press 53 Award for Poetry and follows her ongoing grief journey after the death of her son, Riley.

Chanel is fearless on the page, something that I admire. In turn, she gives other people permission in our workshops to be bold and brave, too. Her writing awakens me to parts of myself that I didn't know existed, until her crisp language and piercing insights somehow find their way in.

Below is my interview with Chanel, where she shares how alternative forms of meditation help her to channel her ideas and poems.

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Chanel Brenner's poetry has been widely published. She is the author of Vanilla Milk: A Memoir Told in Poems (Silver Birch Press, 2014), which was a finalist for the 2016 Independent Book Awards and honorable mention in the 2014 Eric Hoffer awards. Through poems and vignettes, her debut commemorates her son’s death. Kirkus called it, “A noteworthy exploration of a parent’s grief.”

Her new collection of poetry, Smile, Or Else, is the winner of the 2021 Press 53 Award for Poetry, and traces her and her family's ongoing journey toward healing.

“Clear and cutting as glass, Chanel Brenner’s poems will challenge everything you think you know about grief.”

—Alexis Rhone Fancher, author of State of Grace: The Joshua Elegies


”Chanel Brenner’s poetry stirs, provokes, elevates with its precision and insight. These poems are expertly crafted and beat with a true poet’s heart.”

—Emily Rapp Black, New York Times best-selling author of The Still Point of a Turning World

KARIN GUTMAN: Congratulations on your new poetry collection! I just got my copy and love the cover image. Are you happy with it?

CHANEL BRENNER: Yeah. I'm thrilled with it.

KARIN: What does this image mean to you, a candle that's extinguished?

CHANEL: I don't necessarily see it as extinguished. I still see the ember there. And, so for me, it's about light and dark and having hope in the darkness. That there's still a spark there. That there's still a little bit of light.

KARIN: I recognized a few of the poems as I was reading.

CHANEL: Some of them have come from your class, or in pieces that I've read in class when I was mixing the poetry with the essays. I know Dead Child World came from one of your prompts.

KARIN: Dead Child World is one of my favorites.

CHANEL: That was my first draft. My first draft was written in my journal in your class.

KARIN: Amazing.

So, both of your poetry collections, Smile, Or Else and Vanilla Milk explore grief after your son Riley died, correct?

CHANEL: Yeah. The main difference is all the poems in Vanilla Milk were written in the first two years after he died. This new collection is everything after year two, for the most part. It's more of the later grief.

KARIN: How has your perspective shifted over time? Do you see it reflected in the second book of poems

CHANEL: I think this new collection is mostly about falling back into that early grief. How it's never really gone. Even though the time has passed, and yes, I'm healing, that really early grief is always there just below the surface. It's about how it gets tapped into.

KARIN: Do you think of poetry as telling a story?

CHANEL: The poems in a collection tell a story, I think. I don't know if there's a story arc like there is in a memoir, but I think that you can tell the story that way. Also, each individual poem has a beginning, middle and end and tells a story of a moment.

KARIN: How do you start a poem? What triggers ideas for you?

CHANEL: Poems have come from something that somebody said to me. Sometimes it's hurtful things after Riley died, that I felt caused me pain. Or something I would see. In our workshop, I was working on a poem about the woman whose daughter drowned. There was something about the interview on The Today Show that haunted me, and I was so obsessed with it. Sometimes it’s news stories, sometimes things that people say to me, sometimes something I'm dealing with like [my son] Desmond, or something that stuns me and really sticks with me, and I just keep going back to it.

In the beginning, I was just writing things that would come to mind in a journal. Sometimes I didn't even feel like I knew how to write a poem.

KARIN: Are there certain tried-and-true principles of poetry?

CHANEL: I always want to be surprised when I write a poem, and I don't want the ending to be forced. I don't want to know the ending ahead of time. I want to feel like it's a journey and when I get to that point where something truly surprises me and I'm just like, “Wow. Where did that come from?” That's when I usually end.

For me to write a poem, it has to be something I want to know more about or work through. So, I follow that curiosity.

Sometimes I will abandon poems if I am forcing an ending. Sometimes I can just cut the bottom of the poem and end it at an earlier point. But to force an ending feels very crafted or just not authentic.

KARIN: How do you take care of yourself when you're writing about painful topics?

CHANEL: I think I've told you before that I feel the writing saved me. It was a lifeline. However, there were some parts that took me a long time to be able to write about, like the night of Riley’s brain bleed, and it wrecks me when I do. I do need to have some self-care afterwards.

KARIN: What is your version of self-care?

CHANEL: Walking away from it and picking it back up when I'm ready; not forcing myself to continue to work on it. Then just doing something fun, like we used to go to Benihana's a lot, drinking some champagne, doing things that make me happy, that kind of stuff. Definitely walking, exercise, and now I even meditate. I started meditating over this stupid break.

KARIN: Why do you roll your eyes when you say that?

CHANEL: Because I never in a million years thought I would be the type of person to meditate, other than the meditating I do when I'm out on a walk. Claire Bidwell Smith has this little grief meditation course. What drew me in was each meditation is six minutes long. Right away, I thought, “My gosh, this really helps me.”

I also started taking a class with my sister with a medium. Her name is Medium Fleur. She has a bunch of very cool meditations, these grounding and centering meditations. They really work. I wanted to figure out how I channel because there have been poems—even Dead Child World to some extent—where I feel something else takes over. I don't feel like I wrote the poem. I feel like I'm pulling from whatever you want to call it—the collective, the universe, whatever term you want to use. I wanted to figure out what I'm doing when I do that. And so I've learned, when I'm on a walk for example, why poems come to me. She was talking about how when you're in a trans-state, when you're doing something repetitive, then you're more open. I've found that very interesting. Kind of out there.

KARIN: That liminal space.

CHANEL: Even when I sit and put on makeup. I get a lot of poetry ideas and ideas that come to me while I put on makeup. So, it's an important part of my day. Not just sitting at your computer or sitting with the pen and paper trying to write. It doesn't come to me that way, at least not usually for a first draft.

I think meditations help you be in your body. You can't channel if you're not in your body. I'm hoping when I go back to writing in the workshop, that I'll be able to shift into that more easily. Get out of my head into my body more.

KARIN: You say that writing saved you. But how can that be when the material, I imagine, can bring up so much pain?

CHANEL: I felt I could go one way or the other. One was very destructive: screaming, pulling my hair out, breaking things, throwing bottles. Many destructive things went through my mind. Or I could listen to the voice that said, sit down and write. I chose the latter and it prevented me from doing other destructive things. I listened to my intuition and learned how to write poetry. For me, it was a new talent, a new thing to work on. So, I think each poem and each thing I wrote created hope.

KARIN: Is hope something that you discovered through the writing process?

CHANEL: Yes, just by writing about Riley, I'm giving life to him. I always feel like the editing process is even more healing than the writing the original draft, because here I am polishing it off and making it into something that is beautiful. And I think there's always some light in the poems, even the darker ones.

In the editing process, too, there's the reframing of it. I try to look at it from an outsider’s perspective, from an unemotional point of view. That's when I'll sometimes make changes. I like that I have the power to change whatever I want about it. It's not big things, not the emotional truth, but a little this or that. To make it flow better, for the sounds of the words, for the image.

That always feels cool to be able to go in there and think, “This can be whatever I want it to be.”

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A Conversation with Emily Rapp Black

My 8-year-old daughter recently returned to in-person schooling, and it feels like the sun is shining a little bit brighter. Maybe it's also the spring blossoms reaching their peak bloom.

Or maybe, it was the great opportunity I had to dive into the creative deep with Emily Rapp Black, author of the New York Times bestselling memoir The Still Point of the Turning World about parenting a terminally ill child. Her new memoir, Sanctuary, examines resilience and what has sustained her after the loss. We talk about everything from the pitfalls of memoir to blowing up some longstanding myths about the creative process.

For Emily, writing is an act of service. It seems so obvious, but I've never heard it said quite as simply as that. Our stories are offerings to the world.

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Emily Rapp Black is the author of Poster Child: A Memoir and The Still Point of the Turning World. A former Fulbright scholar, she was educated at Harvard University and has been the recipient of both the James A. Michener and Guggenheim fellowships.

She is a regular contributor to The New York Times Book Review and frequently publishes scholarly work in the fields of disability studies, bioethics, and theological studies. She is currently associate professor of creative writing at the University of California-Riverside, where she also teaches medical narratives in the School of Medicine.

Emily's new memoir, Sanctuary, is an attempt to unpack the various notions of resilience that we carry as a culture. Drawing on contemporary psychology, neurology, etymology, literature, art, and self-help, she shows how we need a more complex understanding of this concept when applied to stories of loss and healing and overcoming the odds, knowing that we may be asked to rebuild and reimagine our lives at any moment, and often when we least expect it.

"A meticulous examination of the aftershocks of the loss of a child.... A searing, uncompromising effort to wrestle with permanent grief." -Kirkus Reviews

KARIN GUTMAN: You write a lot about grief. I think we’re all writing about loss in some way. Story is about change, moving from what we once knew to something new and different, and inherent in that is a kind of loss, right?

EMILY RAPP BLACK: That’s a great way to describe it actually.

KARIN: The kind of loss you’re writing about, child loss, is a particularly painful one. How do you take care of yourself through the writing process?

EMILY: I think for me, actually the writing itself is what helps take care of me. That to me has always been the thing that provides the solace.

When my son was diagnosed with Tay-Sachs, all I wanted to do was write. That's always been the engine of comfort. So, I guess I don't feel like I have to protect myself because I feel the writing itself is doing that for me by creating a container, however incomplete or full of holes, for the experience.

KARIN: Are there days when you don't feel like showing up to the page?

EMILY: Sure. I mean, I don't write every day. I think a man came up with that idea.

KARIN: It's a total myth, right?

EMILY: I had a teacher in grad-school, who said, “Write every day from eight to 12,” and I'm like, yeah, because you have a wife who brings you food and takes care of you. Even if you don't have children or don't want children, women are busy, women do more than men, it's the way it is. So, I write in 10-minute blocks. Sometimes I get a bee in my bonnet, as my mom would say, and then I'm kind of on a roll, but I'm a feast or famine writer. I'm not the steady as it goes builder of books. I think I wrote half of Sanctuary in two weeks when I was in a writing colony because I had the time!

KARIN: With Still Point of the Turning World, were you writing it in real-time as the events of your life were happening?

EMILY: Yeah, it was started as a blog, which is something I never thought I would do. It was my friend who said I wasn't answering the phone or responding to text. She said, “We're worried… why don't I set up this public reading space and then your friends can know that you're not leaping off a building somewhere.” I started doing it, and it gave me a concrete thing to do and a place to put it. So that book started as a huge blog that was live time, that I was writing on almost every day. And then I cut it down considerably for the book.

KARIN: How did you go about shaping this mound of clay into an actual book?

EMILY: With help is the answer. First, my agent edits a lot of my stuff. She’ll say “Why is this 3,000 pages?” like “What's wrong with you?” And then she'll send it to my editor, and the editor that I work with, Andrea Walker at Random House, is like my soul-spirit-intellectual-animal person. When I met her, I thought, Oh my God, you are my person.

Editors are vital. I don't write in a linear way, and I like that. I think most people’s memories and lives are not linear in any respect. But I do need help in shaping. I had this whole chapter about action movies, and I was really attached to it. My editor said, “We're not putting this in the book. Stop it.”

When I'm working with an editor at a [traditional publishing] house, I'm willing to make concessions, because they are working with me to put something in the world. I'm not one of those people who's like, “Oh, I'm attached this artistic moment.” If it's not going to work for the majority of readers, then no one's going to read it, and then why am I doing this? So, it's having a team of people that you really trust.

KARIN: You said that every book has its own life, and that it's hard to predict at the beginning. With your most recent book, Sanctuary, what did you know for sure from the start?

EMILY: When you lose anyone, especially when you lose a child, people's platitudes are just offensive. So, I thought: I want to tell the truth about how hard this was. I was adamantly not going to write about Ronan's death in the first book, because I felt he was still alive. And it was important to me that that book ends with him still alive. But then people kept saying to me, “It's great that he had a peaceful death.” I thought: No one gets that. Don't sugarcoat this shit. So, I wrote his death scene, because that sucked. I did tons of preparation for it. Still sucked.

And then also how strange it is to have a child that wouldn't have existed had my other child not died. And how is it to explain that to her. She gets it in some sense, she knows about Ronan. We say the word die. We don't say passed, we don't say gone to a better place. We certainly don't say he went to heaven, because I don't believe that. I don't want her to believe it either.

I really bristle anytime somebody tries to put me in a metaphorical box. And I think: No, actually my truth of this experience is this. It's not something that’s going to fit on a crochet circle or a felt banner. That's not going to work.

KARIN: Is there a discovery process as you’re writing?

EMILY: Yeah. It was like pulling together certain childhood memories that connected to the live-time story that I was telling. Stuff I’d forgotten about. I think writing about life is kind of like that. Memories that you didn't think really had any traction in your current life, do. It's finding the points of connection, the magnetic connection.

KARIN: You say this book is about resilience, and examining what sustained you after Ronan’s death. What did you discover about resilience?

EMILY: It's not at all the way we use it in common vernacular. It's not about strength, or it's a different kind of strength. I think Americans, especially, understand strength as powering through—a lot of bravado, never give up, like push. But resilience is not that, it's about breaking to bend. You can't be resilient if you can't bend and break.

So, to me, it was a real a gift to understand the world is less about this grit, and being synonymous with the aggressive form of strength, and more about allowing and reshaping around it. Without saying, "I've overcome my problems, and now ‘Yay’." That's stupid. People kept telling me, “Oh, now you got your life back.” And I thought: I never didn't have my life. I'm still alive. I was alive when my son was sick.

There's no leaping over the fence into a better life. It doesn't work that way. A lot of memoirs, I think, tend to propagate that myth.

KARIN: You are re-defining and re-framing the language we use that isn't accurate to the experience. I find that incredibly empowering.

EMILY: I always tell students, if you're having trouble thinking about what to write, choose a word that you hear a lot and then look up its roots. So for resilience, the Latin root is resilien, which is the stuff that's in butterfly wings that holds it together, the sticky stuff, these proteins. Butterflies can fly through wind, which is pretty strong, but you could tear its wings. That is resilience. Vulnerability and strength combined. That's why the central image of butterflies is one of the primary images of the book—not because I love butterflies so much, but because they illustrate this combo of strength and vulnerability.

KARIN: How do you work with your students who are writing memoir?

EMILY: Well, I do a lot of prompts. I think a lot of it is just providing structure and saying, “Write about this for five or 10 minutes.” Time under tension. That's really helpful, I think, just to execute one thing within the timeframe. Because otherwise you think: Where do I start? Right?

KARIN: It can be overwhelming.

EMILY: Yeah, it's totally overwhelming. So, I use a lot of generative exercises especially with people who are just starting out. But when people come to me with a full-length manuscript, then it's more of an editorial. Where's the beginning? Where's the end?

KARIN: What common pitfalls do you notice in memoir manuscripts?

EMILY: Memoirs tend to have what I like to call the tyranny of the “and then.” And then this happened, and then this happens… it’s like, oh my God, I don't care. It has to have a beautiful gesture of opening, and it has to take a shape that isn't going to shock your reader—or maybe it will—but it's going to surprise them even if they know what's going to happen. There has to be tension, there has to be a story. There has to be a ‘why’, like why are we writing this? Who is it for?

Also, people think that they must put in everything that's happened to them. And that's a mistake. You don't have to have a terrible life to write a memoir, but you have to artistically construct it so that the reader is engaged with language, propulsion, and the plot. There has to be a plot, the characters have to be well-defined. The place has to be rendered.

People, especially when they write memoir, forget that they have a body. You have to have sensory details, concrete details. Where are you in space and time? Are we on the moon? One of the benefits I've taken from reluctantly teaching fantasy to undergraduates, which is applicable to memoir, is world building. So now I call it world building, rather than setting the stage. The world is your house, your mind, your bedroom, your body, your closet, whatever. You can't just start telling us things about your life without concretizing them in the world.

KARIN: How do you think about your audience?

EMILY: If I hadn't written Still Point, I would have killed myself. There's just no other way to say it. Writing the book is what kept me going with some kind of meaning and purpose that wasn't just dread and sadness and the fucking horrible grief and guilt. It was the only thing that was happy. So, I had no idea who the audience would be and didn't even think there would be one, which was kind of great. I didn't care. I did what I wanted, and it turned out to be something that I was proud of and that felt meaningful to me.

With Sanctuary, I think a lot of people have the experience of rebuilding their life many times throughout their lives. I think there's this myth that once you've got it all settled, then everything's great. That's just not true. So, the audience was intended to be broader, and it's also a more complicated book, so people are going to bring more complicated feelings to the page. With Still Point, it's really hard to quibble with a writer who is writing about their dying child. But Sanctuary has had a different reception, which is satisfying to me, because it means that it's pissing some people off. And I think that's actually good.

KARIN: Do you have a particular reader in mind when you write?

EMILY: No. I definitely am thinking how to shape the story so that it matters to someone apart from me, but when I first do it, I'm just trying to figure it out. But I think a lot of the ‘why’ of writing—who's my audience, why am I writing this—that processing needs to happen off the page. I don't want to process with my reader why I'm writing this.

I really see writing as an act of service. If it's going to serve somebody and help them see their life in a different way, and make them want to live for another day, then I feel that's my job.

KARIN: How much perspective or distance do you think a writer needs to have on what they're writing about?

EMILY: I don't know, it depends. Sometimes people need to wait to write about something if they're villainizing people. That's problematic. But I think you can get perspective by writing about it. And if you're not getting perspective, then you just stop for a bit.

Every quarter I tell my students on the last day: We're leaving class right now, and your task is to go and do nothing for the next two hours. Nothing. Just go walk around. The only stipulation is you can't be on electronics. Just stumble around, see what happens. Because we don't think that's important. We don't give ourselves enough elastic time to go out and sharpen our lenses through which we see the world. That's what memoir is.

KARIN: How do you handle privacy issues, say regarding your daughter? Do you think she might read what you write one day?

EMILY: I'll answer people's questions about anything that happens in the book, but I won't talk about what she's up to now. That's my own private life. But I'm glad that I have [the book] for her because I think it shows her connection to her brother, which is important, and that she has some kind of a documentation of it. Also, really important that she knows she wasn't a replacement child. Not that that even exists, but that she was wanted and loved and planned for and that that is independent from what happened to her brother.

KARIN: I know some writers who are writing about grief and loss feel concerned that their narratives will be “too dark.” What would you say to them?

EMILY: Writing about death is more about writing about life. If you've ever watched someone die you understand how precious life is and you feel like you are more alive than you've ever been. Which was a shock to me. Or, wanting to feel alive when faced with death is a very human reaction.

I don't think it's dark at all. I think it's necessary. I think it's inevitable. Why not write about something that everyone's going to experience?

I've always really gravitated toward stories that have high stakes. I'm not going to write a beach book. I wish I could, but I just can't. I don’t care enough.

So, I think if you're going to write about grief and loss, the main thing I would say is make sure you're concretizing it. Make sure we are in your body. Earn your abstractions. You need to ground us in where we are, who we are. That way you can take anyone anywhere if they feel like they know where they are in the world, they're oriented, and that they feel what you feel. Not just in your heart or in your mind, but on your skin, in the air. People forget about that. The sensory stuff is super important.




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Both Gina and Emily are longtime educators at the university level, have published numerous memoirs, novels and short story collections between them, and have fostered dozens of additional books into the world as editors, publishers and ghost-writers.

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A Conversation with Sadie Radinsky

I'm thrilled to introduce to you a young author, Sadie Radinsky, whose book Whole Girl has just been published through Sounds True. Sadie is baking her way to healthy living with the aim to empower herself and other teen girls. Read our full interview below!

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Sadie Radinsky is a freshman at UC Berkeley, writer, and recipe creator. For six years, she has touched the lives of girls and women worldwide with her award-winning website wholegirl.com, where she shares feel-good paleo treat recipes and advice for living an empowered life. Her writing has been published in places such as MindBodyGreen, Shape, and The New York Times.

In her first book, Whole Girl, Sadie offers practices, tips, and exercises to help young women embrace their whole selves. Each chapter welcomes a different mood (like mad, blue, wild, cozy) to empower all parts of their lives. The book includes 45 delicious gluten-free, Paleo treat recipes.

Read Sadie's recent article in The New York Times.

“Approachable and engaging, Radinsky exudes best friend vibes … A useful, accessible self-help guide.”

— Kirkus

KARIN GUTMAN: I know that your food journey began when you were 9 years old and feeling sick. Can you tell us what happened?

SADIE RADINSKY: One day, I started getting intense stomach pain, nausea, and fatigue, and it just wouldn’t go away. I couldn’t go to school, which was really hard. My parents took me to a lot of doctors, but nobody knew what was wrong. My mom had started hearing that people’s health issues were being solved by going gluten-free, so she suggested it to numerous doctors, but they all said that food wasn’t the issue. Finally, she decided to put me on a gluten-free diet anyway. Gradually, I began to feel better. Soon I got the energy to go to school again. And within about two months, all my symptoms were gone. I’ve been gluten-free ever since, and mainly grain-free as well, since I feel best that way.

KARIN: Do you have a theory on why some people are sensitive to gluten and some aren’t?

SADIE: I’ve been reading a lot over the years about gluten intolerance, and from what I’ve learned, our current gluten issues could exist because the wheat we eat nowadays is heavily altered and stripped of its natural form. Some doctors argue that more people are sensitive to gluten than we suspect, and gluten may be causing a whole host of health issues for folks—but we haven’t made the connection yet. Or, it could be that humans didn’t originally eat grains at all, because we were hunter-gatherers, so maybe it’s biologically hard for some people to digest. Again, this is not scientifically determined yet, just some hypotheses.

One interesting thing I’ve noticed, which hasn’t yet been explained by science, is that a lot of young women in particular are sensitive to gluten. I mean—most of my young female cousins and friends are sensitive to gluten, and it seems too common to be a coincidence. But who knows!

KARIN: How did you make your foray into cooking and recipe-making, especially at such a young age?

SADIE: I have always been obsessed with desserts. All my most vivid memories from childhood surround different treats I ate with loved ones. But back in 2011, when I went gluten-free, there were practically no gluten-free desserts available in stores or restaurants. The few that did exist tasted like sand—overly sweet sand. I realized that if I wanted to still enjoy desserts, I’d have to make them on my own. So I began googling gluten-free recipes for cakes and cookies, and making them myself. I had never been super into baking before, so it was a new hobby for me, and extremely fun. Every day after school I’d run into the kitchen to try a new recipe.

KARIN: What gave you the idea to start a blog?

SADIE: After making other people’s recipes for a while, I wanted to start getting creative and making up my own recipes. So I began concocting my own treats and experimenting with flavors and textures. I shared the desserts with my friends and family, and they all loved them. People were so surprised that they were grain-free, gluten-free, and low-sugar. A lot of other young women and mothers I know had started going gluten-free around the same time, and they kept asking me for the recipes for my desserts. So during the summer before seventh grade, I started a little blogspot.com website where I wrote down my recipes. My mom took all the photos of the food, and it was a super fun creative process.

KARIN: It looks like you eventually moved your blog over to Instagram. Is that where you spend most of your time now?

SADIE: I started an Instagram account shortly after starting the blog—or, I should say, my brother started it. I was too young to have a phone yet, so my older brother would take my latest recipe from the blog and post it on Instagram for me. A few years later, when I got a phone, I started sharing on there more often than my website because it allowed me to connect with people directly, share other bits of my life, and also talk about things other than recipes—like self love, movement, confidence.

KARIN: At what point did you realize you wanted to publish a book, and how did you attract a publisher?

SADIE: I have wanted to write a book since I first started reading as a kid. I have always been transfixed by books—the discovery, the feeling of them in my hands, the process of reading. But the idea for this book started blossoming when I was about fourteen. I started thinking about the ways that food intersect with teen issues and empowerment, and I was inspired to write a book that encompassed all of that—all of our whole selves.

I started writing a book proposal in my freshman year of high school. And then one day, through a common friend, I was introduced to a literary agent. We signed shortly thereafter, and then the agent spent the next year working with me to hone the concept of the book and round out the proposal. The book has evolved so much since then, but it still had the same foundation as it does now. I signed with Sounds True in February 2019, so exactly two years ago!

KARIN: Why did you choose to focus on desserts? Do you imagine that will remain your specialty?

SADIE: I will always be most in love with desserts. To me, making ourselves desserts and enjoying them—especially as young women—is powerful. As teen girls, we’re so conditioned to view desserts as sinful and dangerous, so I think it’s like a small act of rebellion to relish desserts on a daily basis. Another reason I’m drawn to desserts over savory foods is that they’re purely for fun. We don’t need desserts to survive, but they make life more enjoyable. So baking for ourselves is doing a really sweet act of self-care.

KARIN: Did the original concept for the book include teen empowerment? What does that mean to you and how do you incorporate it in the book?

SADIE: I was always drawn to two things: empowering teen girls, and desserts—but it took me several years to fully make the connection between the two. I’m so glad I finally did! Whole Girl was actually born out of my realization that making & eating desserts is a form of empowerment, and flows beautifully from the concept of embracing our whole selves, which is the crux of the book.

KARIN: Tell us more about the Sounds True book publishing arm. What kind of things do they publish?

SADIE: Sounds True focuses on spirituality and wellness books, so they publish a lot of books on mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. I’m honored that Whole Girl is their first YA title, because they really stuck their neck out by publishing something so different.

KARIN: How do you decide how much to share via social media versus what to reserve for your books?

SADIE: Oof, this is always tricky. It kills me to be working on a really fun, delicious recipe that I’m excited about, and not be able to share it. Whole Girl has 45 recipes, and originally had 60, so I spent a lot of time over the past 3 years creating new recipes—none of which I could share yet. It’s challenging to work behind the scenes doing something for years, and not be able to share it (or even about it).

In this era of social media and instancy, there is a lot of pressure to constantly pump out “content” and give your followers a stream of recipes every day (all for free). So while I was writing the book, I would constantly beat myself up for not simultaneously publishing more recipes on my blog and Instagram. I had to remind myself that the hard work I was putting into the book was valid, and it was worth it—even if I had nothing to show yet. This long book-creating process taught me to appreciate things taking a long time to come to fruition! The best things take time.

KARIN: I love all the videos you make! What is the set up you use? Do you also do the editing?

SADIE: I mean, if you’re talking about the Whole Girl trailer, my filmmaker brother made that! But everything else, I make on my own using my iPhone and extremely limited Final Cut skills. Oh, and the window in my kitchen.

KARIN: Where do you go from here? What do you envision?

SADIE: I have so many ideas swirling through my mind about the future! My current endeavor is learning about global issues by majoring in Global Studies at UC Berkeley (alas, remotely for now). But after college, I’m not sure what awaits. I want to explore food justice, regeneration, and policy on a global scale, but I don’t know how to label that profession yet. So I’m trying to take a page from my own book (page 70 in the chapter “Be Unsure,” to be exact) and be okay with not knowing yet what I want to do.

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